Maintaining Inner Balance

With the pending election stress in the USA and fear and violence escalating around the globe, people are wondering how they can maintain their inner balance, keep their energy positive and light, and still feel happy even when they are surrounded by heaviness, struggle and hardship. In times of chaos, fear has a way of rearing its ugliness; painting all the worst case scenarios as pictures in our mind and filling our focus with what we don’t want to happen. It has become obvious to many that we can no longer depend on our external circumstances to be the source of our security when life feels unstable, chaotic and uncertain.

We need to watch our thoughts and our focus. Our thoughts influence cause and effect. Since thought has no apparent measurable physical structure, it is considered to be spiritual. You can't see it, smell it, touch it, taste it, or even feel it, but we know it exists. It exists only as a vibration. We know that vibrations that are of a particular frequency and intensity attract to themselves like vibrations, to bring into the physical world the result of the initial thought seed that was planted. Just as a flower seed requires nurturing (sun and water) our thought seeds of love, peace and unity will grow according to whatever we feed it or nurture it with. The thought, just like the flower seed, can only produce an outcome that is in relation to, and correlates with the seed that is planted.

Our thoughts and the stories we tell ourselves determine the emotions and energy we feel within us and this energetic vibrations has a ripple effect on the collective consciousness. Anything we give our focused attention to, expands energetically ten times in strength for every hour of focus. The more that we focus on the negative happenings in our world; we are adding more negative energy to the focus making it stronger and we will continue to experience more of the same negative energy.

Fear, worry, struggle, anxiety, hate, hopelessness, helplessness, powerlessness, drama and pain radiate low, heavy and dull energy frequencies. When big things are unfolding outside of us that we cannot control, we must simply let go of struggling with it, and work with the only thing we can control which is what is going on inside of us. We do this by using the power of our focus to create a shift in our energy, without needing anything outside of our self to change. Inner balance comes from a calm, settled and non-reactive mind. As we quieten our inner chatter we naturally fall in to a greater space of inner stability. Perhaps this is where we must place our attention; off the external world as the drama is unfolding and see this experience as a powerful opportunity to get to work on creating inner stability and balance.

We have a choice to see these experiences through the eyes of fear or we can choose to remain centered in love and focus on peace despite the challenges. When we are feeling sensitive and vulnerable, we have to do whatever we can to support ourselves. Wherever we can, we must withdraw from negativity and focus all our energy on the good stuff. One of the most powerful things we can do is start to surround our self with positive, uplifting and supportive guidance and wisdom. Perhaps we can help this fear from spreading by going on a negativity diet!

May we come together and activate our Heart seed assisting the collective consciousness to operate from Love, Integrity, Gratitude, Humility & Truth. With our Heart Seed activated and our entire system attuned to Universal frequencies that are capable of attuning other's to higher vibrations, activating their Heart Seed, unleashing portals of unconditional love, sacred communication. May we plant the seeds of our thoughts on unity and oneness, with an absolute knowing that by nurturing these thought seeds with more positive thoughts such as love and peace, in combination with concise focus, and positive energy, it must produce results in relation to the seeds we are planting. It is up to each one of us to make the conscious choice to change our thoughts, words, and actions then release these thoughts of peace, love and unity into the atmosphere emanating those higher vibrations and attracting to it, the events, people, circumstances, and situations that allow our thoughts to manifest in our world. May we be open and receptive, to look for opportunities to spend our love, to feel gratitude and simply allow peace to flow to us, through us and from us to all others. May there be peace on Earth. …… love and light Christina

The Yellow Brick Road

Attention: Anyone who’s not in Kansas anymore ….

I had an experience recently; an incident with a Bee and my finger…..ouch! I came to understand that the Bee might have been trying to tell me to simply BE.

I have had so many projects on the go and I found I was in my busyness and I was finding it hard to stay on my own Yellow Brick Road because I couldn’t stay out of the poppy fields or I found myself fighting flying monkeys.

We’ve all had times in our lives when we feel confused or need help staying on our true road to success…..BTW… many thanks to the friend that guided me….smiling.

I felt just like Dorothy and her friends who fell asleep in the poppy field, I was getting sidetracked from my desires, unconsciously repeating patterns of taking on too much and of course this caused me to have negative thoughts – feeling like I was in a constant battle with the flying monkey’s in my head, issues that just kept coming at me with a constant barrage of “what if’s”.

And I became so focused upon the tigers, lions, and bears of the “what if’s,” that it was hard to do what felt right for me. And then was the really scary part….when it feels like we must face the “Wicked Witch of the West” and all her questions (my inner critic) in order to obtain the freedom I desired. Well, she’s not really wicked but sometimes we simply don’t want to deal with her….I was too busy doing…instead of BEE’ ing. Smiling.

Some of you may know that I was involved with animation and its art forms for a few years, often I use them as teaching tools. Anyway I reflected on this film and its messages.

For such times it is best to follow the advice that Glinda, the Good Witch of the North gave to Dorothy:

Follow the Yellow Brick Road! 
 But where is it and how do we stay on it?

Finding and staying on our path is not always easy…here are a few Key points for finding and following our own unique Road to Peace and Success.

• Strengthen your awareness of “no place like home. Know what you really want from life. Learn how to find a home within.

• Get out of Munchkin land and follow your own Yellow Brick Road. Change requires getting out of your comfort zone (mine was my busyness…remember the Bee) and take risks. By risks, I mean boldly follow the path that is your authentic life expression.

• Nurture your inner Scarecrow, Tin Man, and Lion. Discover and build on your strength of wisdom, compassion and courage to stay true to yourself.

• Stop going to sleep in poppy fields! Recognize and change the patterns that keep you stuck, distract you, or cause you to resist change.

• Win the battle with those pesky flying monkeys and the wicked witches. Overcome your fears and doubts that keep you from living and enjoying your best life. Transform negative thought patterns and old belief systems.

• Pay no attention to the “man behind the curtain” and unveil the illusion of needing a Wizard to provide answers. Learn what you seek is always inside of you and be (that Bee again) the authority for your own life.

So dear friends, be sure to click your ruby Slippers every once and a while to make sure you are still aligned with your authentic self and your path. Bless you all and I wish you much success on your journey……love and light, Christina

The Healing Power of Prayer

The Healing Power of Prayer

When we have a relationship with someone, it’s natural to feel the need to speak with him or her. We like to visit them, see them, talk with them, share with them. We might seek their advice or offer them our support. That’s the meaning of friendship. The same applies for our relationship with the Divine Universal Spirit. In order to develop our contact, we need to communicate regularly and we need not go anywhere in order to find our loved one, our friend.

The Divine Universal Spirit is omnipresent and actually resides within us. Communication simply means stopping temporarily the incessant flow of the mind towards external events, desires, attachments, fears and expectations and directing our attention into the inner calm where we are able to think clearly about our experiences and communicate this to our Divine Spirit, our real mother, our real father.

Just as we report the state of affairs in our lives frequently to those who we are close to, in the same way we communicate our deepest feelings, questions, gratitude and needs to our Universal Self.
This is Prayer. It is simply opening our heart to the Universal Being. We may do this with traditional prayers such as the Lord’s Prayer or other various prayers handed down to us by our religious background. The traditional prayers created by enlightened beings have a special spiritual vibration and the continual repetition over thousands of years have created a power of their own on the spiritual level.

When so many billions of people have prayed these same words it creates a tremendous focus of collective spiritual power. Jesus name in prayer has become a great source of spiritual power simply through the thoughts and prayers said by many human hearts. The greatest power however lies in the sincerity of the heart which is praying.

There are a lot of things that we focus on and pray for, we may have problems and issues that we bring to the lord, as well as perceived needs that we feel are important to our well-being. The highest aspect of Prayer is that we would be, “rooted and grounded in love” (Eph 3:17 ). This means that love is more than a side issue, it’s THE issue. We are deeply rooted in love, and love is the foundation for who we are.

The greatest healing power is a Prayer for Love: “Beloved Angel of the Holy Spirit, thank you for the grace you bring into my life. I wish to be a vessel of Your love, power and healing. I choose to carry the flame of Divine love into the world, express it around me and light the hearts and minds of all those I meet today. Beloved Angel of the Christ Light, help me fortify my connection to the Divine Universal Spirit through the awareness of the Christ Light within me.”

May the Christ Light illuminate us in all that we do and all that we are. May we live in truth and love, realizing our full potential celebrating the gift of love; and remembering that we are this Love…… Christina

Looking for the Patterns …. Healing Our Relationships with our Mothers

Looking for the Patterns …. Healing Our Relationships with our Mothers

My childhood was very dysfunctional; it was filled with "shoulds," family rules, family secrets, abuse, being good and saying and doing the right things necessary for my survival. It was not a stable environment; in fact, it was a traumatic situation whereby I was concerned with my physical safety and that of my siblings and my mother. I felt that I had a lot of responsibility as a child to try to find solutions that would protect everyone and keep the negative experiences from escalating out of control, while protecting myself and the others. If I was successful I felt loved. If I was not successful I felt devastated, fearful and unloved by the others. I wanted to know why they didn’t love me.

Because my childhood was difficult, I always felt that my mother rejected me; however, other times I also felt that I rejected my mother. I understand now that perhaps she might have been held captive by her own patterns of conditioning and created experiences of her own that oddly turned out to be very similar to patterns of my experiences. Many times I would say to myself, "I will not be like my mother." Then, suddenly, words would come out of my mouth that was her words exactly.

I felt abandoned by my mom; I felt she had no time for me and that she did not love me. Whatever the cause, I reacted to the rejection by withdrawing behind a protective barrier so that I would not be hurt. I had a tendency to try to win her love and acceptance by taking on duties and family responsibilities and building a life of wealth and success; as if to say “Look Mom….see me now.” I now have the knowledge and wisdom to see that my emotional responsibilities might have been founded on guilt, and I can see where I carried this pattern with me in other relationships.

The situation is perhaps more complex then I could have imagined in those years. I had a strong emotional hunger and need for security as a result of my childhood experiences. My mother, because of her own circumstances, could not fulfill my needs and demands as a child. I interpreted her actions as rejection and, in turn, rejected her when she wanted to be warm and loving. We often can be very difficult to approach when we feel hurt, and some of us have the emotional resilience and determination to withdraw emotionally for quite long periods of time.

Furthermore, these extraordinary circumstances regarding my relationship with my mother and my general upbringing evoked a very detached emotional attitude in me. My relationship with my mother was characterized by a sense of equality or of a friendship, rather than the traditional patterns of dependence. I often switched roles, whereby I felt like I was parenting her in ways that I thought were protecting her. I was never allowed to feel a natural dependence, and I tried to protect myself by developing detachment; from another point of view, I rejected mother when she did try to assume the traditional maternal role. This may have been because there was an element of unpredictability about my mother's behavior, a situation where I never knew what she was going to do next. I also know that, looking from the perspective of a child, I might not have been able to feel her love for me.

As I looked back even farther and even deeper into this issue, I could see that the patterns in my mother and me were the same as her mother and herself. I was very loving, protective and compassionate with my mother as she went through her own negative experiences, which she a shared with me ─ as if they were hard to miss. I liked being the strong one for the family. I felt needed, loved, validated and important; but I also felt power over her and I was often angry at some of her decisions in life. As I grew older, I saw her as a loving, compassionate person, but weak and always dependent on others for everything. She was not able to decide anything for herself because she had very little self-worth.

Little did I understand that what I was seeing was also within me. I did not see myself beneath my "winning formula." I saw that I was bright, well-educated, successful, wealthy, and all the things my mother was not able to accomplish. I set out to become much more than my mother, much better than my mother; but did I really?

To really understand this pattern, I had to see something I was not willing to look at: the hurtful patterns that I experienced as a child and that I was now passing on to my own child. This meant healing for me on two levels ─ one with my mother and one with my daughter. There were times when I was definitely the parent and my daughter the child; and other times where I might have given my daughter too much information on the negative experiences I was having in my life, whereby the roles seemed to reverse. I became the child, just like my mother did with me.

I looked for comfort from my daughter, which she would give me as she slipped into a parental, nurturing role. This was comforting to me at the time but, later, I was feeling ashamed for laying my burdens on her shoulders. I felt that I was failing as a mom and I experienced feelings of guilt, loss of self-worth, and loss of respect. I perceived all that were in her eyes, but they were actually within me.

I saw that I had been affected by my daughter to some degree concerning my self-worth as a parent and person. I also saw how this issue affected her well-being and feelings of self-worth. I saw myself, my mother and my daughter with more clarity and the details of my patterns with each of them so much more than I could have ever imagined. I understood that my codependency was not really about my mother or my daughter; it was about me needing to heal a dysfunctional relationship with myself.

When we reject others especially those who have close energetic connections to us, it is important to understand that we are also rejecting some aspect of our self……love and light Christina

The Least Effort to Happiness is to Dance with the Universe

The Least Effort to Happiness is to Dance with the Universe

We only need follow Nature’s example of ease and harmony. Nature’s intelligence functions with effortless ease . . . with carefreeness, harmony, and love. If we but observe, we can learn to harness these forces of harmony, joy, and love to create success and good fortune with this same effortless ease using our conscious awareness.

It’s is easier to develop awareness of the present and of ourselves as consciousness rather than as separate bodies and minds. If we want to experience the joyful divinity of every present moment we will need to let go of any beliefs that limit and distort it. The biggest obstacle to that experience is the illusory feeling of separateness created by our senses when in fact we are one spirit, one energy, and even one matter. This feeling of being separate from others and the forces around us causes us to fear and develop defense mechanisms that seriously obstruct our happiness.

When we are lost in our emotions, we are unable to experience our present environment. By setting any particular conditions which if they are not fulfilled; we are refusing to feel happiness. Many of our emotions can distance us from our happiness and we will never find the answer to these emotions solely with logic.

The truth is that lasting happiness will be achieved only when the mind itself has let go of its need to find external sources of safety, self-worth, freedom or fulfillment, or happiness. When we feel safe within ourselves and love ourselves, we will be much happier and much more pleasant to be with. In reality we will find happiness when the mind is transcended and we experience the peace and that bliss that are beyond the mind.

Following the law of least effort, as nature teaches us, we will learn to accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur. We will know that this moment is as it should be, because the whole universe is as it should be. Our acceptance of what is becomes total and complete as it is in the moment, not as we wish they were.

Accepting things and others as they are, we can learn to take responsibility for all of our experiences and even for all those we see as problems. Our responsibility is our response-ability. Taking responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for our situation, for our feelings, for the attachment or the expected outcome we have (and this includes our self). Every problem is an opportunity in disguise, and this alertness to opportunities allows us to take each experience in each present moment and transform it into a greater benefit.

Using our awareness we can relinquish the need to defend our point of view, and we will feel no need to persuade others to accept our point of view. Instead we allow others to be who they are and we remain open to all points of view and not become rigidly attached to any one of them.

Within detachment lays the wisdom of uncertainty . . . in the wisdom of uncertainty lays the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, is the field of all possibilities, a place where we can surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.

Committing our self to detachment will allow our self and those around us the freedom to be as they are and not rigidly impose our ideas of how things should be; not forcing solutions on problems, which sometimes even creates new problems; instead we participate in everything with detached involvement.

Factoring in uncertainty in any of our situations as an essential ingredient of our experiences and coupled with our willingness to accept uncertainty often creates surprising solutions that spontaneously emerge out of the problem, out of the confusion, disorder, and chaos. The more uncertain things seem to be, the more secure we will feel, because uncertainty is our path to freedom. Through the wisdom of uncertainty, we will find our security.

May we create happy and joyful lives and may we allow others to be themselves as we step into the field of all possibilities. May we participate in the excitement that can occur when we remain an observer, open to the infinity of choices. May we step into the field of all possibilities, and fully experience all the fun, adventure, magic, and mystery of life …. Love and light, Christina